Nabokov in Lolita:
We would prefer not to have known at all our neighbour, the retired hot-dog stand operator, if it turns out he has just produced the greatest book of poetry his age has seen. That is the conclusion of a long paragraph devoted to our expectations that friends would not change, would adjust for life to the image of them we cherish. If this it true (it is!), then we can be sorry for that hypothetical book of poetry, and for us, who will not read it nor, in case we did, will appreciate it.
And we can also be sure that the same applies to us. So we'd better not show any such deeds of ours to anybody who knows us in the role of hot-dog stand operators. Better give them a hot-dog (and not a very remarkable one), if that is what they expect.
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